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Why does he always seem to just want "sex"? Why can't I get out of my head? Can't we just cuddle without it always having to lead to something more?
When you and your partner are not on the same page it affects every aspect of your relationship. Thoughts of your relationship disharmony become all consuming.
You think about it when you first wake up in the morning, you think about it while you are eating your breakfast, you think about it all day long while you are at work and you think about it as you lie awake at night trying to fight that gnawing anxiety and fear in the pit of your stomach that seems to suggest that if you don't find a solution to this problem he might leave you.
You know it takes two to tango, but nonetheless you have started to feel like it’s all your fault, as if you are the one to blame for the “problem”. You are tired of feeling like you need to be “fixed” or as if you or your body are a “problem to be solved”.
In an effort to keep the peace in the relationship you frequently find yourself giving into sex even when you don’t really feel like it, maybe even when it hurts.
You keep saying “yes” when you mean “no" or you feel bad for once again turning him down for sex, because deep down you really do want to have a deeply fulfilling and satisfying sex life with your partner but you just don't know how to make him happy without feeling like you have to sacrifice yourself and your own needs.
It might seem hard to believe that there is indeed a solution to this all too common problem that many women face when it comes to sex. But the truth is that there is a way to solve it. And the solution is not about giving in to his demands or saying "yes" when you mean "no" just to keep the peace.
This path begins in fact with an authentic and genuine discovery (or re-discovery) of yourself first. Many women have lost themselves in the society filled with a male dominated sexuality. We don't know who we are as sexual beings, or even how our unique feminine sexuality functions in the context of intimate relationship.
What we grow up seeing in the media, in magazines, and in movies, is what works for men. What the medical profession has told us is that we are dysfunctional because we don't respond the same as men. And all this leave us women all the while thinking that something must be wrong with us and our bodies for not being like men!
None of this is our fault. But it is our responsibility.
We as women have a huge responsibility to ourselves and to the world to re-discover who we really are as feminine sexual beings. We have a responsibility to bring love, depth, spiritual meaning, connection and healing back into sex.
This journey of sexual self discovery is one of the greatest gifts you can give not only to yourself but also to your chosen partner and to the world at large.
Ready to being the journey?
Sep 06, 20 03:14 PM
Echart Tolle seriously dropped the ball on this one...
Aug 26, 20 09:27 AM
People ask me THIS all the time. Were you wondering too?
Aug 04, 20 12:52 PM
Why I don't use incessant validation in my therapy practice